A transition with a never-ending cost

The Wireless 2 November 2015
Oliver Rabbett was born with a female parts but began telling people he identified as a male when he was 16.
His family were supportive, he says, but for a while stumbled over the little things like pronouns and his new name.
Oliver’s face turns grim for a moment as he explains that his best friend couldn’t come to terms with his plan to transition and is no longer a part of his life.

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“There are always going to be people that don’t understand, but if they don’t respect you then you don’t need them in your life.”
Oliver and his mum were going for a walk when he decided to tell her he no longer identified as a girl. “I turned to her and said, ‘Mum, I feel like a boy’.”
She began telling him stories from when he was a child, how he would scream and cry when she put him into a dress. The stories proved to them both that he should have been born male. His mum wasn’t surprised and said “it all made sense”.
Oliver has since been diagnosed with gender dysphoria, a term used to explain that he doesn’t identify with the biological sex he was born with.

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